Loving Myself Like I Love My Daughter

Before giving birth, Rob and I joked that Quinn could be this ugly baby with fiery red hair or she might be born with my dark hair and crazy frizzy curls.  All kidding aside, we knew we would love her no matter what.  You always hear other parents talk about loving their child unconditionally and I understood it, or at least thought I did.

But then I became a mom and saw Quinn for the first time.

newborn Quinn

Wow.

Perfect.

Perfect.

Perfect.

newborn quinn sleeping

As she grows, we notice these little quirks about her that make her so much more beautiful than I ever could have imagined.

She has these cute little birth marks above her butt.  Just adorable.

Her dimple kills me.

She has a gap between her front teeth kinda like her daddy’s and it makes her so unique.

Quinn smile

There are so many other things about her that we just swoon over.  So the other day while I was putting on makeup, this happened.

makeup with quinn

I had to stop.

Quinn is already copying me with makeup brushes and learning that I am making myself “pretty.”  All too soon, she will be wanting to do the same thing and will feel like I do; I should be wearing makeup because I look better with it on.  It immediately made me sad that my daughter, who I think is the most beautiful person in the world, will want to change how she looks.

She might even ask for braces to fix that little gap I love so much.  She could be embarrassed to be in a swimsuit because of her birth marks and try to cover up the cuteness.  After all, I remember hating my freckles, my big nose and I still wish I had boobs.

Do I want to encourage her to feel this way?  Why can’t I feel the same about myself as I feel about her?

I won’t stop wearing makeup, because I do think there is some balance.  There is a way to look presentable, but not obsess over looking perfect.  I don’t need fake eyelashes or lip injections.  I will not cover up my wrinkles as they come in.  I most certainly will accentuate my eyes because they are my best feature.

But maybe I should start really watching how I get ready and what I say in front of her.  I’m just not sure how to do that yet besides loving my quirks as much as I love hers and that is still a work in progress.
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